This book is about the personal paradigms in our lives-the powerful underlying concepts and perceptions that shape our future life and how these mold our attitudes toward commitment. The book holds out the promise that these paradigms can be adjusted through personal experiences and work on one's self, including self-examination and the help of outsiders. Important relationship ingredients are covered in the book, including personal agendas that each partner has for entering the relationship and the importance of honestly sharing these agendas in both the premarital and postmarital phases of one's relationship. The book claims that letting go of the past so that both partners are free to grasp the present and future is important. And the author describes in good detail his own experiences in this area and the struggles that one can go through until he or she can finally let go of past relationships and childhood attachments that impair the ability to let go and accept the present and reach toward the future. The book also deals with the matter of intimacy, its parameters, and why it is a vital bonding agent in relationships. It explains some of the common reasons why intimacy may not be fully achieved and what can be done about it in order to reach a fuller and richer relationship. Finally and, ultimately, the most important behavior that the book encourages everyone to learn is to live within themselves; that is, within their physical, emotional, intellectual, and financial boundaries in order to reach and enjoy contentment. If you are seeking answers to these questions and conditions for living more comfortably, this book is for you!
